Family legal matters, including divorce, dissolution, the Collaborative Process, and disputes over child custody, can take a tremendous toll on those involved. Between the lifestyle changes and procedural complexities, it is understandable that a person would feel overwhelmed.
During these times, the idea of self-care can seem like a pipe dream. However, it is crucial for parties who are managing a family legal matter to take care of themselves. Below are some tips for how to do this.
Keep it simple
Self-care does not need to be overly complicated. It isn’t going to change your life overnight or eliminate the obstacles in your life.
As this article on self-care explains, it is any activity or behavior you can engage in to refuel yourself and become healthier mentally, emotionally, and physically.
There is no need to overthink it. Join a book club, play golf, cook yourself a special dinner, start a workout routine, or set aside time to play video games or take a bath. If an activity helps you take care of yourself, make time for it.
Call for reinforcements
Even though you should prioritize your needs and well-being with self-care, you do not need to practice it alone. You might seek help from a therapist or partner with someone at the gym. Friends, family, colleagues, and anyone else who can help you get the most out of an activity can also be a positive factor.
Be proactive and protective
Once you identify the effective elements of your self-care, make them a priority. Block off time on your calendar. Once you have a commitment to yourself in place, take that seriously. Protect your self-care time and recognize the value that it adds.
Don’t overdo it
Self-care does not need to be an extravagant luxury or time-consuming obligation. In fact, spending too much on self-care can ultimately create more problems than it solves, particularly if you are ending your marriage. Your practices should not come at the expense of your job, time with your family, or your health.
Your attorney can recommend a therapist should you need one.